Month: June 2025

Riveting

Words are thrown about often, but when the New York Times said that Couples Therapy is riveting, God Dammit, they got it right!

It is like the most addictive show for the nosy and God Dammit, it’s so relatable if you’ve ever been in a relationship. Like there’s not a single client in the various couples on screen that hasn’t said something, that in some way resonated with me at some point.

I love it that in Episode 6 of Season 1, Dr. Orna Guralnik, the therapist says something like clients go in thinking therapy might change their partner and their relationship will be saved, but in fact the relationship is saved when they are able to transform themselves.

I am super proud that I came to that realisation on my own. Perhaps my Iowest point was so very low (so insecure that I was envious of my own dogs?) that the realisation came to me more easily but I swear it is also the residue effect of my great Marie Kondo lesson of 2015 as well. If the house (relationship) is messy, tidy up your own shit instead of waiting for the other occupant (your partner) of the house to do so. It will make a difference.

In these increasingly anti-LGBTQ, racist ,and xenophobic times, this show warms my heart because it depicts the universality of human emotion. We’re all just looking for, and trying to be, a soulmate to someone.

Celebrating Swiftiependence Day with Taylor Swift

I don’t want to be superstitious, but I really do believe that Taylor Swift’s arrival on Earth was a little wink from the universe for me.

I woke up yesterday and read her announcement that she had bought the rights to the master recordings of her first 6 albums.

Well on 30 May 2025, “I did something bad”, but my husband, therapist, and actual friends say was something right and brave.

“I never trust a narcissist, but they ‘love’ me”

I’m sick of hearing “don’t blame me, love made me crazy, if it doesn’t, you ain’t doing it right”

I did it for the girl who was told, and the woman who is still repeatedly told today, that she’s worthless, a burden, an ingrate, the problem.

I did it for the “precocious child” who had to escape by reading every night and scream inside “I hate it here”

“I’m lonely but I’m good, I’m bitter but I swear I’m fine”

“Cause for every lie I tell them, they tell me three”

“Cause I can’t pretend it’s okay when it’s not
It’s death by a thousand cuts”

Gave you too much but it wasn’t enough
But I’ll be all right, it’s just a thousand cuts”

“Even on my worst day, did I deserve, babe
All the hell you gave me?”

“Did you think I wouldn’t hear all the things you said about me?
This is why we can’t have nice things”

“I didn’t have it in myself to go with grace
And you’re the hero flying around, saving face

“… If you wanted me dead, you should’ve just said

… So I leap from the gallows and I levitate down your street
Crash the party like a record scratch as I scream
“Who’s afraid of little old me?”
You should be

… The scandal was contained
The bullet had just grazed
At all costs, keep your good name
You don’t get to tell me you feel bad

… Is it a wonder I broke?”

“Look what you made me do”.

I will be eternally grateful to my husband, children and those who “like me for me” when “my reputation’s never been worse”.

“It was the great escape, the prison break
The light of freedom on my face”

“They say I did something bad
Then why’s it feel so good?
They say I did something bad
But why’s it feel so good?
Most fun I ever had
And I’d do it over and over and over again if I could
It just felt so good, good”

“I’m fresh out the slammer

Now we’re at the starting line, I did my time.

But it’s gonna be alright, I did my time”